Yesterday was pretty difficult and I had one of those complete meltdown moments! Sometimes there is such relief in a meltdown, though. The feeling of tears on your face, allowing the rug to be completely pulled out from under you, and being forced to let go, for even just a moment, is somehow relief.
I was notified yesterday that I am not being considered for a job that I am, quite honestly, over qualified for. It has been difficult for me to be without a “regular” job, so while I was not completely in love with the job, I was looking forward to the distraction of going to work every day. After I got the news, I was sobbing and was just 100% DONE! It was sort of the icing on the cake. Luckily, I have such a wonderful family.
I called my dad and we talked for about an hour. He is really great. We haven’t always had a good relationship, but I am so lucky to have him to talk to about this. He suffers from depression as well and spent the first 13 years of my life untreated. It runs on our family. His mom and dad also suffered from it, but medicated it with alcohol. My dad, thankfully, never turned to alcohol. The irony is that he has spent his life as a psychiatric nurse, but being from a Catholic, New England, Alcoholic family, has, historically, had a “unique” way of dealing with things ;-).
Anyway, yesterday we talked about life, depression, and how everything in our lives happen for a reason. While I might be frustrated now, if I hadn’t made the decisions I did in my life, I never would have met my husband and had all the experiences I have had.
I always knew a little story about my dad and the engagement ring my mom has. My dad’s best friend was drafted to Vietnam and was killed. He was going to propose to his girlfriend wen he got back, but never made it. His family gave the engagement ring to my dad since they were like brothers. Yesterday, he told me about why he enlisted in the Navy. My dad knew that he was about to be drafted, but didn’t want to be drafted into the Army like his friend. He knew the likelihood of surviving was slim. So, he went to the Navy recruiting office and enlisted in the Navy and was slated to become a Navy nurse. The next morning he received his draft notice. If he hadn’t enlisted when he did, he would have been drafted into the Army and who knows what would have happened. He may not have ever met my mom (a Navy nurse and his commanding officer (CO) when they met).
So, I’m going to see my family in a few weeks. Cannot wait.
My realization today was: sometimes it takes a total meltdown for you to feel like a new beginning is possible. In Buddhism, what I experienced today is called absolute bodhicitta: a moment of complete dis-attachment…of the need to control my story… to “put” things where they “should” be. These moments of bodhicitta are amazing gifts along the path of the warrior.
Here’s to a good day and a great weekend!
~SD